Why does everything feel like a competition?

if you guys are close, then i guess you could tell her this in a lighter tone and sort the issues out... if i do it my partner would tell me, why the hell you have the same thing when i have it.. and i would be like really i do that, then we would laugh over it and move on and i would definitely keep this in mind from next time onwards.. If you think she is understanding enough then say it to her... this is really common, she might be doing it unknowingly...